Does it feel overwhelming trying to understand what’s really going on behind your child’s behaviors? Does it feel like your child ALWAYS cries, or NEVER calms down on their own? Are you left feeling like your child’s behaviors will NEVER get better?
You are not alone. In fact, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed by our children’s over reactive behaviors and feel like there is no end in sight. The good news is that finding answers can be a lot easier than you think.
As parents and educators, we have this desire to change ALL of the behaviors at once, leaving us feeling like nothing is working at all. However, I have a secret for you… You can only change ONE BEHAVIOR at a time.
Despite what we want to happen, change does not happen overnight, nor does it happen all at once. It seems so simple, so obvious… and yet, we constantly try to change multiple behaviors all at one time. I promise if you slow down and focus on only one behavior, you will have the key to understanding your child and making positive changes today.
By focusing on just one behavior you can learn exactly what is causing your child’s behaviors – what revs them up, what calms them down, what helps them focus, and what makes them feel overwhelmed. Better yet, you can help your child notice these behaviors and regulate on their own.
And guess what? Today we have an awesome free printable to help get you get started with observing your child’s behaviors and finding patterns today!
The key to understanding and changing your child’s worries is observing AND documenting their behaviors.
Maybe your child cries over smallest things, shouts “I HATE YOU” or “GO AWAY”, says inappropriate things around others, plays rough with others or speaks negatively about themselves. Now you can get to the bottom of the behavior that is the most trouble for you and your child.
Using this Free Tracking Guide you can pick one troubling behavior. Resist the urge to pick more than one. On the first page of the tracker, you will tally every single time your child has this behavior. This will give you a very clear picture of the real severity of the behavior and allow you to use numbers to see the amount the behavior changes as you get to the source of the behavior.
But let’s not stop there. No, let’s take our digging a step further and look for patterns in our children’s behaviors so we can bring peace to our family (and classrooms).
Once you start to observe your child strategically and intentionally, you will start to notice patterns that lead to your child’s break-downs.
You might start to notice a particular time of day where breakdowns begin, or you might begin to notice that certain foods elicit certain anxious feelings and behaviors.
Use the second part of this guide as a way to keep track of every occurrence of this behavior. However, this time I want you to pay VERY close attention to what was happening BEFORE the behavior, what the BEHAVIOR looked like, and how others RESPONDED to the behavior.
Once you have a clear picture of every time your child “misbehaves” you will start to notice clear patterns that lead to answers. This is a crucial step in getting to the root of the problem and bringing peace to your home.
Once you are able to see the triggers and causes, you will be equipped to teach your child what sets them off, so they can start to take ownership over their own regulation and ultimately have a life-long skill that will help them be successful and happy in the future.
Now, you can get your FREE printable tracking guide to start today! This simple, two-page tracker is a great way to get the bottom of difficult behaviors and finally see patterns so you can understand what is causing your child to struggle.
If you are looking for more information on recognizing triggers and teaching your child how to self-regulate, we’ve got you covered.
Click here to read how to teach your child how to recognize their own triggers.
And stay tuned because I have more great stuff coming your way in this free series on understanding behaviors.
The next time we will learn some key phrases and tools you can use when you see these difficult behaviors. Be sure to be on the lookout for that freebie in two days. If you missed the first part of this series, What’s Hiding Behind Troubling Behaviors, be sure to check it out.